How ironic it is to see that
a little while ago …. okay, a LOT while ago- I wrote an article about procrastination, and here it is, 7 months since my last post! Hey, I never said I was immune to the seduction of procrastination. It is so easy to let things fall by the wayside. According to a study, we all have about 48 thoughts per minute. That means we have roughly 70,000 thoughts per day. No wonder we forget things to do things that are seemingly so simple- like running to the grocery store after work to get that carton of almond milk, or picking up the dog from the groomer(….oops-sorry Rover, it slipped my mind!) We are all so over-worked and over-stimulated, its a wonder that we get anything done at all!
With such chaos going on in the brain, we also forget to dream.
I don’t mean the dreams that we have while we sleep ( that’s a whole other subject that I’d like to get into….but maybe some other time.) I’m talking about the dreams that we hope will someday come true. That dream you’ve always had to travel across Europe, to scuba dive in the Great Barrier Reef, or the dream to finally meet that perfect person to share your life with. Some dreams seem easy to achieve, while others seem downright impossible!
Sounds pretty discouraging , right? Well, good news! there is a way to achieve those seemingly crazy, off the wall, “that’ll-never-happen” dreams! It all begins with your thoughts. Yes, those very same thoughts that drive you crazy throughout the day. It’s all about how you manage them.
It also begins with ALLOWING yourself to dream. For some of us, it’s very difficult to “let go.” What I mean is to “let go” in the sense of letting the imagination run free. We often are so caught up in the day to day, that it seems totally unrealistic to cater to the imagination. But when you think about it, that is how dreams are born-by allowing yourself to use your imagination.
The reason why your dreams don’t come true is because you’ve convinced yourself that they won’t.
The trick is to convince yourself that they will. Sounds difficult, right? More good news! There’s are simple (and fun) ways to do that too!
First- dream it! Let’s use the example of landing your dream job. What IS your dream job? Where do you see yourself working? (in a nice office by the beach, perhaps?) What type of people will you be working with? Will you be your own boss? How many hours/days do you want to work? How much money will you make? Allow yourself to visualize it in great detail! Better yet, write it down, draw it- heck, you can even sing about it if that’s what floats your boat! Whatever gets you excited about it. The more excited you are about your dream, the more likely it is to come true.
Secondly, get support! Tell everyone you know about your new conquest! Everyone that will listen, that is. It is extremely important to have a positive and supportive team of people to cheer you on. One of the biggest challenges that you can face while trying something new, is running into killjoys. Those Negative Nancys who are absolutely convinced that you are wasting your time. In this case, the best thing to do is to stay away from those types pf people. If you can’t stay away from those people- whether you work or live with them- simply try saying something like: ” I hear what you have to say and I value your opinion, but at the end of the day, the most important person that I have to answer to is me.” The things that happen to you are mostly what you ALLOW to happen to you. If you allow negative people to bring you down, then that is what will happen. If you allow yourself to believe that you can manifest the perfect job, then that will happen as well!
Thirdly, be kind to yourself! One of the biggest obstacles that you from you dreams is YOU. We so often get in our own way when it comes to achieving a goal. We have a tendency of being very judgmental and harsh on ourselves. We put everything we say and do under a microscope and analyze it to death. We compare ourselves to others, and put ourselves down when we make mistakes. The fact is, that we are only human- we make mistakes. Mistakes are often the best teachers we have in life. How else would we learn not to wear blue sparkly lipstick out in public…..ever. You live and you learn. Done. Beating yourself up about it will never get you anywhere, it actually hinders your progress. So do yourself a favor, forgive yourself for the mistakes that you’ve made and then keep moving forward.
The next step is to BELIEVE IT! This is probably the hardest step for people to do. It’s easy say that you want something to happen, but it’s another thing to actually put it into action. In order for something to manifest you must absolutely believe that it will happen and that it IS happening.
Oh boy, there goes that word again…manifest. I’m sure we’re all sick to death of hearing THAT word. Ever since The Secret, we’ve been hearing about the wonderful and almost magical powers of manifestation. I’m not here to put the action of manifestation down, in fact, I highly encourage it! The truth is, that even before The Secret, people have been using those same techniques to bring about all sorts events, objects and people into their lives. One of the most important aspects of manifesting is belief. Belief that the thing that you are wishing for the most will POSITIVELY, WITHOUT A DOUBT happen. It is believing to the point where you know that it is an ABSOLUTE TRUTH. As a good friend of mine put it: “KNOW that your dream will happen in the same way the KNOW that you will have to go pee sometime during the day.” Its sounds pretty funny when you think about it this way, but its also genius! Pretty much all of us will to go to the bathroom during the day- especially if you’re a stickler for getting in your 8 glasses of water. We just know it’s going to happen. No questions asked. When you apply that same knowing to what you want the most, then it HAS to happen, because you’ve already told yourself that it will. Pretty cool huh?
When you apply this type of thinking to everyday life, things become easier. There is not as much resistance to getting the things that you desire the most . Anything really IS possible when you allow yourself to believe that it is. But, as LeVar Burton said on of every episode of Reading Rainbow….”You don’t have to take my word for it!”
Try it yourself! (Bah Dah, Dah!)